You know when you live with the same partner for years something happens within the relationship. You become comfortable and stable which are good things, but they can also cause your relationship to loose its spark, the excitement and all the things that made you so attracted to each other in the first place. I have some ideas that are fun, simple and somewhat creative that can begin to reignite that magic:
Send them something unique at work.
Get out some crayons and some paper and go back to your childhood years. Draw a childlike picture like you used to when you were little, you know the kind, the one with the big yellow sun with the yellow rays on it and the white and blue clouds in the sky. Draw some stick figures of you and your partner holding hands. Put some labels under the figures with your names on them indicating who is who in your picture. Or maybe draw that heart like you did as a teenager with the “4 ever” you remember how you used to do it. Put a heart on your picture and write something sweet inside it.
Next, get a large envelope one that will fit your picture without bending or folding it. Get onto your computer and type a formal address label and put it onto the envelope. Address the envelope to your partner’s workplace, but make sure you put “private and confidential on it” and make it sound important, for instance you can put for the immediate and urgent attention of “______” and pop it into the mail so your partner will get it in the middle of their day.
Become children again.
Yes you read that right, become children again, the best way to rekindle love is by letting your guard down and be childlike. If you find yourself walking past a park with your partner, stop like you used to when you were a kid and get on the swings. Make sure if your a guy you get behind her and give her a few pushes, it will bring back so many memories for both of you.
What about water?
Yes water. Have some fun with water like you used to when you where little, go get yourself some super soakers or water guns and when its warm outside, fill them up and toss one to your partner when your outside and have yourself a good old fashioned water gun fight!
Memories, childhood memories, bring them back.
If you have to contact your partners family and ask them if there was something that your partner really really wanted when they were a child but never received. For me it was a doll house, my cousin had the most beautiful dollhouse I had ever seen and I always wanted one just like it. Find out what your partner wanted really bad when they where a child. Go out of your way to find it for them and surprise them with it on their birthday. Not only will your partner appreciate this gift, but also the fact of all the trouble you went through to find out what they always wanted.
I can not tell you how many times I have told my husband that I always wanted a beautiful dollhouse, although there is one in my attic now, it was so special that he secretly bought one and put it together, it was one of those kits and it was so beautiful, I still have plans to have it incased in glass one day and display it somewhere in our home. Or … maybe I am just secretly waiting for one of our children to have a little girl.
Have an old fashioned back yard picnic.
On a warm summer night, go to the store get a nice checker board blanket, get some snacks like crackers and cheese some chocolates and some champagne. Surprise your partner with a picnic in the dead of the night and the both of you enjoy each other’s company and lie down on the blanket and do some star gazing together.
Show how grateful you are for your partner.
Now this goes without saying but when our lives get busy and the years pass we do sometimes forget that this is so important in a relationship. Men, surprise that special women in your life, leave her just one long stem rose with a note that says something like “thank you for coming into my life”. Women you too…if he takes a briefcase to work, or his lunch, get some candy kisses and put them inside with a note. Remember its always just the little things that put an unexpected smile on our faces that make all the difference in the world.
Last, but not least, spice up your lovemaking!
Change things up a little, if you always making love in the bedroom, try the kitchen instead. Be spontaneous but also romantic. Do not just rush into your lovemaking spend some time with each other, tease each other in anticipation for the lovemaking act. You know foreplay isn’t just for women’s pleasure, whisper what your thinking about doing to each other. Let the other know your desire with a look. You remember that look when you were first dating and learning about each other. Find it.
Share a fantasy with each other or maybe just surprise your partner with a small gift after you make love. Learn how to give your partner a sensual massage before your love making or even afterwards and please, please spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and touch each others bare skin before you begin to make love. It is so important to cuddle and hold each other afterwards, more so for us women than the men, but men if you understood how much that means to your partner I am confident you would spend so much more time in the afterwards of your lovemaking. It is when the true intimacy of your relationship grows.
So there you have it, 7 ways to rekindle your love in your relationship and add some fun and passion into your lives. Your relationship is important and so is the need for excitement within it, so don’t delay, start planning today!