Let’s face it guys we’ve all had that moment, you spot a girl she looks hot, you’re desperate to make contact but your not sure how to do it. Your mouth becomes dry, you start to get nervous sweating and then your brain starts to talk you out of the whole idea and before you know it the moment is lost. Well in no particular order here are some guidelines to help you approach girls with confidence.
First off, as a man you need to understand the make up of women (and I don’t mean the cosmetic kind) you see girls especially the beautiful ones are constantly bombarded by the advances of men and can become quite weary with the constant pestering. Add to that the fact that all their lives they have been instructed to be alert to the approaches of strangers and not to encourage such advances.
So how do you break down a girl’s built in defence barrier?
Well the first thing and I know you’ve heard this a million times before but it’s true, just be yourself relax and let the real you come out. If you attempt to put on an act you will eventually be found out, especially if you’re looking to build a relationship.
Next, how you approach her is just as important as the first words you utter to her.
Key to this is the location of the proposed contact let me explain… The location, time and environment will determine the girl’s emotional state. If for instance it’s a bar or club, a women is likely to be far more approachable and open to suggestion than let’s say early morning as she’s heading for work!
If you intend to gain her attention in the street or the mall, always try to walk up to her at an angle, she will feel less threatened than if you walk straight towards her.
Now that you’ve walked up to her the next thing to decide is that all important ice breaker, and if she’s a pretty girl this can be difficult because she has probably heard every pick up line imaginable but fear not!
As I said earlier be yourself avoid trying to be to direct by making references to her beauty or sexual over tones. Instead ask her a question and try to strike up a conversation be friendly not creepy! A good way to do this is to practice talking to strangers when you come into contact with them, in places like the supermarket, a restaurant, even on the phone, when you talk to a call centre assistant. Just saying simple things like “hi how are you?” is enough to provoke a response or make some reference to your environment/circumstance.
Finally be confident girls love being approached by a confident guy who has some aura about him. They love a confident guy even more than they love a funny guy but be warned I said confident not arrogant this can be a big turn off!
I hope you have found these little tips useful and will practice them often and develop your skills to become comfortable in approaching girls.