If you are a man, looking to join an Adult Dating Site, we strongly recommend you read up about the sites you are looking into, read some reviews and do some basic homework before you spend any money on them. There is a problem endemic to adult dating, which if you are not wary, could distract you from what you are supposed to be doing (IE. meeting women in real life) while emptying your wallet at the same time.
The biggest issue men face on dating sites, adult dating sites in particular, is many women don’t join the with the intention of meeting you, they join them with the intention of fleecing you. These women will always be hot, so you’ll always be tempted.
So the scenario runs like this. You join up to an adult dating site and have a look around. When you see some girls you’d like to meet you pay the dating site fee so you can contact them. You come back a day or 2 later and some of these hot girls have gotten back to you. GREAT! You reply back, and your reply is followed up by a request to meet them at an alternative site, for which they’ll give you their personalized link.
If you are interested in this woman you will probably follow her instructions and follow her to the site, which is another membership website. You’ll need to join up to this one to find the woman you were speaking to. This one will have all manner of great feature, interactive webchat etc, all of which you can use once you hand over your credit card.
Your credit card will be used either to pay for another membership fee, or to pay to view the girls. There will be webcams at this site, so you’ll get to see, talk and interact with these girls online, paying all the way. Obviously the girl who introduced you to this website makes a cut on every cent you spend. That’s how she makes her money, that’s why she wanted to meet you.
Soon enough the original website you joined will bill you for you next month’s membership. And then it will hit you. Not only have you not met any girls yet, but you haven’t even been using the website. What the hell happened to the month? That’s right, you spent it webcamming.
Further you will realise that you have spent way more than you budgeted as you will have paid them to talk to you on their web-cams. And finally (and hopefully by now) you’ll realise these girls never actually want to meet you. So its all lost time and money.
This type of thing occurs at most dating sites, to varying degrees. It is very hard to stamp out. Adult dating sites are particularly vulnerable though given the frequency of men getting sucked in. The women who run these scams know the men at adult dating sites are easy targets. So do some research. Suss out which dating sites give you the best opportunity to meet real women who are interested in meeting you in real life. Only join the quality dating sites that do some kind of new member screening to get rid of the scammers.
The second way you can avoid falling into this trap, is by setting a rule that you will not follow women who want you to join another website, no matter how hot they are. Lets look at the facts here. The purpose of joining the original dating site was to find women to introduce yourself to. That’s it.
Once that is done, the website’s job is over. From here, you are supposed to correspond, exchange numbers, chat and then meet in the real world. So once you have met someone and started corresponding, what possible purpose is there to joining another site? You have met her already!
One last idea you can try is to only ever be a member of one dating website at a time. So no matter what happens, never join a second dating site until you have quit the one you are already a member of. This will ensure you test each website individually and remain true to online dating. IE. You will use the site to meet women for dating. Only quit and join the next site if you are not getting acceptable results.
If you have tried a few dating sites though and continue to not attract real people, we suggest you stop changing sites and rather look at your internet manner. Setting up a great profile that attracts women and progressing communication to a real life date is a skill. Its something you can research and learn. As always, when things don’t go right at the start, don’t give up. Research, learn from your mistakes and do it better.