Dating Sites – Where Are You Spending Your Money?

One thing I find interesting is how dating sites sell their services on a subscription basis. That is, they charge their clients a monthly fee for being a member of their site. The reason I find this interesting is because it suggests people are members of dating sites for months on end. I don’t necessarily think this is a bad thing, but rather I believe it begs the question, why are you dating?

When dating, are you trying to find someone special? A soul mate if you will? If so, it entails meeting people, then spending time getting to know them properly. If you had a monthly subscription at a dating site, you’d be throwing away your money while you were getting to know the people you recently met. Surely you’d be much better served by joining a site which sells credits you can use to contact people.

That way you would have the opportunity to get in touch with a potential match, meet and get to know them, (during which you are not paying a monthly subscription) and if it works out, great. But if it doesn’t you can go back and use your “meeting credits” until you do meet the right person.

That being said, you may not be looking for anyone specific at the moment. You may just be looking for lots of new people instead, on a light, friendly basis. There are many reasons why this may be the case. For example you may have just finished an intense relationship and not be ready for another. Or you may be a traveler who has stopped off somewhere for an extended, but finite stay. Both of these examples are cases where you may want to meet lots of new friends, but not develop anything too deep. In these cases, the monthly subscription type of site would be perfect for you, as typically you can contact an unlimited number of people with these services.

It doesn’t really matter to me why you are dating or who you are looking for. You are your own person and make your own decisions. The point of this article is to get you to think about the reason you are dating, recognize different websites have different payment structures and join the one which most closely matches your needs. Otherwise you’ll end up throwing good money down the drain, money which could be better spent dating.

I have found that most subscription based membership sites are of the adult nature. I don’t believe this should hold you back though if you are looking to meet lots and lots of people. There are plenty of people on adult sites who are not fully into the promiscuous side of it. You just need to be clear about where your boundaries are and how fast you like to progress things.

In summary, its really important when joining dating sites, you think and plan a little first. Too many people don’t think when it comes to matters of the heart. If you forget to think before you join a dating site, you are likely to end up paying a lot of money to meet lots of people who are not very appropriate for you.

Jayde Johannsen analyses regular dating sites and adult dating sites , in an attempt to help everyone find those they are looking for.