There are some basic rules that should be followed to ensure that you wedding day is the most special day of your life, and this includes addressing and mailing your wedding invitations.
When addressing your invitation envelopes, you will want to use your most elegant penmanship or improve plain handwriting with special calligraphy pens. Your envelopes should be addressed according to the certain etiquette rules. For instance, the inner envelopes should exclude the first names of the recipients, such as Mr. and Mrs. Stevens. Also, on the inner envelope should include the first names of children to be invited below the parent’s names in order of age, such as Mr. and Mrs. Stevens, (then) Lisa, Adam and Julia.
For the inner envelope when it concerns children over the age of sixteen should receive a personal invitation, but the children’s names should be omitted if you are planning an adult only wedding celebration. If an invitation to a single guest extends to an unknown escort, then the inner envelope should be addressed with your guest’s name followed by and guest, which should read such as, Miss Andrews and Guest.
On the outer envelopes, you should use the full name and formal title, but you should never abbreviate. You should also not use symbols, initials, and do not use ‘and family’ if the children are to be included within the invitation. Also, on the outer envelopes the word ‘and’ should be spelled out, as well as all names. There should always be figures used only when writing the house numbers and the zip codes, such as 1747 Second Avenue South. The street names should be completely written out such as, street, boulevard, and avenue, but never abbreviate the state name.
If you have selected an invitation that does not include an inner envelope or you decide not to use your inner envelope to reduce mailing costs, then you may follow traditional addressing rules for the outer envelopes or create a new way that works best for you. For a traditional single outer envelope address, include the names of children to be invited below the parent’s names as on a standard inner envelope. Also, write ‘and guest’ as it would have appeared if you had used the inner envelope.
For a more creative way to address single outer envelopes, enclose a note with your invitation welcoming an escort or telephone friends to obtain the names of their escorts and send them personal invitations. After the invitation is folded, use the protective tissue by placing it over the printed wording. The reception card is always placed next to the invitation with other enclosures in front of that and always insert all enclosures with the printed side up.
If the printed wording is on the inside of a single fold invitation, then enclosure cards should be placed inside. If the invitation is folded once with the printed wording on the front, then enclosures are placed in front of the invitation. If the invitation is an accordion fold, french fold, or tri-fold, then enclosures are placed inside the second fold. Before a response card is inserted, the card should be tucked under the flap of the response envelope.
The invitation is inserted in the inner envelope with the folded edge first and the printed wording or cover design facing you. Once enclosure cards are inserted, the inner envelope is placed, unsealed, in the outer envelope with the front of the inner envelope facing you. Mail all invitations at the same time, which should be four to six weeks before the wedding date using first class postage. Eight weeks is usually suggested for out of town guests.
If you will be enclosing response cards in your invitations, then remember to include stamps on the return envelopes as well. Often, assembled invitations require additional postage, so to avoid postal delays and returned invitations, take a completely assembled invitation to your post office to determine proper postage. Be sure to include a return address on each outer envelope, because if the invitations are returned by the post office, then this will allow you time to invite those individuals personally.