When Western blokes come to Thailand to meet a lady, many of them will join one of the Thai dating companies that abound in Bangkok. Here, they will meet a few ladies who complement their criteria, most of them youthful and cute and, for a good number of these fellows, matrimony will come after the Thai dating experience rapidly. This gives them a youthful spouse, who is typically very pretty and has everything a man thinks he wants.
For the women who sign up with the Thai dating companies, they often say they want a bloke who is kind, affectionate, will take care of me, has money and lucrative employment. When they hook up with an older Western bloke, through the Thai dating firm, they assume he possesses all these characteristics.
The problems start for the women when they get back to the fellow’s native country to learn he is a working class bloke, with limited money and no social interactions. I’ve heard of Thai ladies who have married a bloke like this, traveled to America to be together, and decided within a few weeks that this guy and lifestyle is not acceptable for them. They turned up back on the 1st airplane to Thailand a few weeks later. For Thai women who decide on this life, they desire to see other countries. All Thais however adore Thailand and the lifestyle there. It only takes a few weeks in the winter of England or the brashness of Australia for them to realize they desire no part of it.
For the fellows, they get married to Thai woman thinking they have got a lady who is attractive, youthful, will love them and take care of them, and be their dream wife. Truth comes when the true personality of the Thai wife comes forward. Thai girls have an external countenance of calm and subservience. In truth, Thai ladies rule the roost and have strong persona’s. For a European man who thought he had his meek fantasy lady, it’s a huge wake up call. Suddenly their Thai wife is tougher and more demanding than any European lady they’ve ever been with.
Additionally there is the fact that the Western man is deluding himself when he assumes a young, beautiful Thai woman is dating or wedding him for himself. These women are searching for an improved life (who can blame them!), and it’s totally about lifestyle. Most of them would not pick the 55 year old Western guy if they had different options. But, if the fifty-five year old European man comes with a huge house, a new automobile and a full savings account – yep, they’ll date him. A year down the road though, when he comes to realize communication with his spouse is hampered because her language command is low and she has differing interests and preferences, that’s when these blokes begin thinking about splitting up.
For the ladies, Thailand is becoming a place that is concerned with dosh and material wealth. Most average Thai ladies have no method for obtaining this so, when a Western fellow shows up like a knight in shining armor, very few of them will refuse his advances. All that they’ve ever desired is being offered to them. Why would they turn it down? And they are even signing up with the Thai dating sites in droves to obtain this lifestyle for themselves.